Some of you know that I believe Family Constellations transformed my life, I am forever grateful to Julie Toms who facilitated a constellation for me that changed everything – in 30 minutes! I’d had an extremely difficult relationship with my mother and was extremely anxious and insecure. Of course once I slotted the missing piece into the holistic jigsaw (ditched the booze) I could see that there was more work to be done.
I’ve recently become even more fascinated learning about ‘inherited family trauma’ (Check out the excellent book It didn’t start with you by Mark Wolynn a podcast guest) and the impact of adverse childhood experiences. I love the work of Gabor Mate, and Vincent Felitti (The ACE study) and I find it very powerful to realise that even a fairly low score on the ‘adverse child experiences’ questionnaire has negative impact on health and wellbeing in adulthood. In the original ACE study, those who scored 4 or more were 7 times more likely to be an alcoholic, 10 times more likely to have injected drugs, and more likely to experience depression and relationship breakups. You can take the ACE questionnaire here.
I offer 1-1 coaching which is always about SO much more than not drinking! Recently I trained as a Family Constellations practitioner to add to my ‘toolbox’ of EFT, NLP and Matrix Re-imprinting and I am hosting my first event (under supervision from my trainer!). I am fascinated by the connection of where trauma meets addiction, but we will address any topics that come up on the day. We may end up looking at someone’s relationship with a sibling, a parent, or even looking at whether they should change career! One of the best ways to ‘explain’ family constellations is from a personal experience. One of our Sober Club members shares her experiences here.
Family constellations was devised by German Psychotherapist Bert Hellinger who realised that events that are traumatic such as abuse, abortion, early/violent death, and miscarriage, can ripple down through generations and manifest in a range of psychological and physical illness. We now know much more about this of course with the phenomenon of Epigenetics.
Rather than attempt to fully understand it, its probably better just to come with an open mind, absolutely no experience is necessary and it’s not ‘acting’ or psychodrama, but it can be profound. It’s been described as ‘Homeopathy for the soul’. You can read about my experience in an article written for Spirit and Destiny magazine and published on the website of the wonderful practitioner I worked with.
We will start the day with an interview with Rafe Nauen, a leading expert in adverse childhood experiences, trauma work and family constellations. There will be time for Q and A, and then we will do some constellations. As this is a one price event we won’t be pre-booking the ‘issues’ so everyone will be invited to be a participant, a ‘representative’, and some will experience their own ‘constellation’. Many people find it benefits them hugely just to witness constellations, they can be very powerful.
‘Working with ‘ancestral healing enables us to notice what’s going in the people’s systems – their family, their environment, their history. We inherit things from our past and we pick up things along the journey of life, and some of it is not helpful. Family secrets, early deaths, traumas experienced, all contribute to our current state. Adverse Childhood Experience adds to the catalogue of “stuff” we carry with us. If we don’t manage to deal with it, it contributes to ill health mentally, physically and emotionally as we get older.
At a constellation workshop we safely explore these aspects using representatives chosen from the attendees. The issue holder (and the others present) get to see where the “stuff” belongs. And knowing that enables a final leaving it where it belongs. The plan for the day is to do quite a few short pieces of work, and some longer ones. Almost everyone who has ever been to one of my workshops has gone away enriched and empowered.’
You will receive venue info once you book, Kings Langley is 25 mins by train from London Euston or close to M25 Junction 20 and M1 Junction 7, there is parking close by. We will provide teas, coffees, snacks and ‘light bites’. You are welcome to bring your own lunch or go to one of the coffee shops/deli in the village.
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