A Guest writer from the US shares some tips around moving on from traumatic events.
When something negative happens in your life, it’s natural that you’re going to spend a lot of time and energy thinking about it over and over again. It might be that your life becomes about this event in a lot of ways, especially if it’s something that you find yourself involved in for some time to come. At a certain point, however, you might find that you’re mentally hanging on even when it’s time to let go.
That’s not to say that you’ll ever be able to just easily abandon such a traumatic event. It will always be a part of you in some way, but acceptance is a vital part of healing and moving forward in life.
The Difficulty of Acceptance
The task of ‘acceptance’ is always easier in theory than it is in practice. It might sound as though you just decide to accept what happened and move on, but most people will know that’s not the case. The thoughts and memories of what happened will always be there, meaning that you have to get better and internalize this and respond to it within that space.
This isn’t something that you have to do completely by yourself, and if you’re struggling, you must realize the value of professional mental health services like counselling in helping recover. Taking the lessons that you learn here into your own life is part of the process, and accepting help naturally is as well.
Closing the Book
Perhaps you feel as though you can’t close the book on what happened without tying up some loose ends. If you feel as though the event in question left you at odds with people that you want in your life, it might be time to reconcile with them, or at least confront them about what happened to achieve a sense of peace about it.
It could also be that the situation at hand is one where you were wronged, and potentially require some legal help to feel as though you’ve done everything that you can about it. If it was a medical issue, you must be specific in what you need, as you want the right, experienced attorney to help you settle your birth injury lawsuit over something that might be more pharmaceutical.
A New Lifestyle
Expecting everything to go back to ‘normal’ or the way that it was before the event occurred might not be a realistic way to think about things. What happened, happened, and for better or worse, you’re a different person because of it. Thinking about what you want your new life to look like then, might help you to develop a more constructive attitude.
This doesn’t have to be negative at all, and taking a more positive, open-minded approach might help you to make the most of this shift. This might be a time to change your life in a way that you’ve always wanted to – living somewhere new or doing something different with your career.
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